What is emotional? To put it simply, it means that you cannot control yourself, you are often controlled by your emotions, and you are prone to emotional fluctuations due to some large or small factors, resulting in a manifestation of inappropriate words and deeds. Wondering if there are such often emotional people in your life or work? We all know that we don't want to get along with such emotional people, but sometimes because of the needs of life or work, we have no way not to get along with them. This is the helplessness of life. So, how to deal with emotional people? What are the ways to easily solve the troubles of dealing with emotional people? This becomes one of the life lessons that most people need to learn. Discuss this issue today.

Method 1: Learn to accept each other unconditionally

Emotional people often talk and do things without going through their brains, and we should not pay too much attention to inappropriate words and deeds when getting along with each other. Carl Rogers said a passage that can be regarded as the textbook definition of unconditional acceptance. Is an independent individual to respect and like. Accept the emotional side of the person. Make him feel warm and safe in this relationship. Even if your significant other is in a mood swing, give him acceptance and love. Unconditional acceptance refers to the person who accepts him, not just his emotions, so the method mentioned here is not to say that we can't correct him, but to say that we should not deal with personal emotions when giving advice to others.

Method 2: Learn to listen positively

If we are in an emotional state when we get along with the other party, and we are talking to you about his pain, what should we do at this time, so that the other party will feel that we care about his emotions? Sometimes body language such as nodding, expressions, etc. can also make him feel your support without talking. In fact, maybe you don't have to say wise words, use too many methods, and there is enough power with company. When listening, try to empathize with his emotions and get along with him as much as possible. Of course, you can also associate his situation with your own experience, and say to him something like "I have had the same emotion as you", which are all good ways to get along with him.

Method 3: Avoid the minefield of communication

When dealing with emotional people, no matter what his current state is, you must know that his mood changes, and emotional changes are a matter of minutes. Therefore, another method is prevention. We need to make mental preparations and environmental preparations in advance to be prepared. First of all, don't present facts and reason. If you say this to a deeply emotional person, he will feel as if he has been exiled into the desert, alone and on trial. Secondly, beyond our common sense, the evaluation method of praise and affirmation is actually a "communication stumbling block". People who are accustomed to admiring others are easy to control others. Too much unreasonable praise will make the other party feel: I am not doing things for my own happiness, But for your appreciation, the emotions are not relieved. Therefore, don’t judge others too much when getting along, so that we feel that we are truly accepted, not judged by the other party, and we can show our worst side. No matter what you say or how you feel, you can express it.

Method 4: It is necessary to empathize and draw a clear boundary

There is a group of people who are very easy to empathize with other people's emotions and want to be their saviors; but they often fall into the sea of ​​emotions with each other due to unclear interpersonal boundaries, and as a result they also become victims. This method requires that when it is appropriate to get along, the boundaries should be drawn.