How important is spiritual communication in a relationship?
2022-05-27
Very much people's pursuit of their love is very high, and they often regard finding their soul mate as the ultimate goal, but why pursue a soul mate? Then you need to first describe how couples at all levels usually get along. After watching these scenes, you will naturally understand why many people are pursuing the so-called "spiritual communication" and "soul mate".
Couple relationship based on passion and impulse together:
There are many topics between such couples, and they want to stick together every minute, especially in the first month or two of their relationship, even if they do nothing every day, just simply staying together can already feel dizzy happiness.
But often after three or four months, both couples feel very embarrassed - it seems that they have done everything they need to do, and everyone seems to have lost their enthusiasm. He started, and the other party seems to have begun to indulge in his own affairs, and he is less and less looking for you...
Couple relationship based on dependencies and needs:
In the eyes of others, you are the perfect couple. You complement each other's advantages and achieve mutual benefit and win-win results. You are a couple made in heaven, but only you know that you have rarely had that kind of love before.
You know she can take care of your family, and she knows you're putting a huge amount of living expenses into your account every month, but these things have become business-as-usual, step-by-step...
Although the other person has always been conscientious, you no longer have any special feelings for this person - of course, you are still responsible for your feelings, but this is more like a work that requires effort to complete, rather than you send inner behavior.
Couple relationship based on spiritual communication and resonance:
You may often stay up all night, or do your own business for a long time without communicating, but you never worry that there is no common topic or cold scene between the couple; you know exactly what this person is interested in, and this person also understands what kind of communication Makes you more expressive. While there will be disputes between couples, a quick reconciliation can often be found. That person is not only your partner, but also your best friend.
Here's why so many people crave spiritual exchange in a relationship:
Because a partner who can communicate with you can not only play the role of a partner and share the happy and sweet moments in the relationship, but also be your partner and your best friend, and have many common topics.
But the truth is, many of us do struggle to communicate spiritually in a relationship. Many couples in counseling cases fall into the first and second situations mentioned at the beginning of the article.
That being the case, we need to think carefully about what is holding us back from spiritual communication.
Good spiritual communication in a couple relationship requires at least three steps:
1. We need to be willing to show our partners what we really think, which many of us cannot.
One of the most heard words in couple relationships is: If everything needs to be said so clearly, why am I still in a relationship?
This is a very misunderstood understanding: any relationship is gradual. If you are not willing to run in with your partner from the beginning, and you are not willing to tell the other party what you really think, you will be worried that it will cause conflicts between you, then there will be more and more misunderstandings between you.
We have never said that the tacit understanding of spiritual communication is overnight, and we have never said that there is no conflict in such a tacit understanding of the relationship, so we need to tell each other our true thoughts from the beginning, and then gradually Start doing it now.
2. In the relationship between lovers, we should seriously understand each other's life.
Let’s not talk about achieving spiritual communication with each other or becoming a soul mate, let’s talk about the most direct: how much do you really know each other?
It is found that many people do not know each other seriously in their relationship: I only know that this person likes to play games, but what games he likes to play, how well he plays, and why he likes it so much, all of which are unknown; you only know that this person has been very busy with work recently, But what he's doing, what problems he's encountering now, and why he's so troubled, I don't know.
I was told that his wife was on a business trip. I asked him where he went on a business trip, and he asked me in surprise, "How do I know where this person went on a business trip?" You don't even know each other's lives, how can you achieve a deeper communication?
Therefore, if we want to have a more in-depth communication with this person in a couple relationship, at least let us first understand each other's life, understand what the other party is doing, why are they worried and troubled, and what are they interested in? It may go deeper into the other party's life. spiritual world.
3. Really willing to change themselves for each other in the couple relationship.
Very couples may have gone through the first and second steps, but finally got stuck in the third step: we will feel that the other's world is too complicated for us, and there are some things we don't want to understand, so we gradually lose interested.
A lot of us feel: I want to be myself in a relationship, I don't want to change for the other person.
The idea is really naive: Now that we're in a long-term relationship, we're bound to bond with each other. We cannot be fully ourselves, nor can we expect to have any in-depth communication with each other while fully being ourselves.
Therefore, we must be willing to change for each other on the basis of mutual understanding, and understand many things that we did not understand before, but the other side attaches great importance to. Only in this way, we will have the opportunity to have a more in-depth exchange in the future.
Above, this is why we attach so much importance to spiritual communication in love, and why many of us know the importance of spiritual communication, but there is still no way to turn the other half into our soulmate.
The spiritual exchange of love itself requires us to spend enough time and energy in our own lives, patiently understand each other, and change for each other. This process may be very difficult and long, but the result is worth it.
Couple relationship based on passion and impulse together:
There are many topics between such couples, and they want to stick together every minute, especially in the first month or two of their relationship, even if they do nothing every day, just simply staying together can already feel dizzy happiness.
But often after three or four months, both couples feel very embarrassed - it seems that they have done everything they need to do, and everyone seems to have lost their enthusiasm. He started, and the other party seems to have begun to indulge in his own affairs, and he is less and less looking for you...
Couple relationship based on dependencies and needs:
In the eyes of others, you are the perfect couple. You complement each other's advantages and achieve mutual benefit and win-win results. You are a couple made in heaven, but only you know that you have rarely had that kind of love before.
You know she can take care of your family, and she knows you're putting a huge amount of living expenses into your account every month, but these things have become business-as-usual, step-by-step...
Although the other person has always been conscientious, you no longer have any special feelings for this person - of course, you are still responsible for your feelings, but this is more like a work that requires effort to complete, rather than you send inner behavior.
Couple relationship based on spiritual communication and resonance:
You may often stay up all night, or do your own business for a long time without communicating, but you never worry that there is no common topic or cold scene between the couple; you know exactly what this person is interested in, and this person also understands what kind of communication Makes you more expressive. While there will be disputes between couples, a quick reconciliation can often be found. That person is not only your partner, but also your best friend.
Here's why so many people crave spiritual exchange in a relationship:
Because a partner who can communicate with you can not only play the role of a partner and share the happy and sweet moments in the relationship, but also be your partner and your best friend, and have many common topics.
But the truth is, many of us do struggle to communicate spiritually in a relationship. Many couples in counseling cases fall into the first and second situations mentioned at the beginning of the article.
That being the case, we need to think carefully about what is holding us back from spiritual communication.
Good spiritual communication in a couple relationship requires at least three steps:
1. We need to be willing to show our partners what we really think, which many of us cannot.
One of the most heard words in couple relationships is: If everything needs to be said so clearly, why am I still in a relationship?
This is a very misunderstood understanding: any relationship is gradual. If you are not willing to run in with your partner from the beginning, and you are not willing to tell the other party what you really think, you will be worried that it will cause conflicts between you, then there will be more and more misunderstandings between you.
We have never said that the tacit understanding of spiritual communication is overnight, and we have never said that there is no conflict in such a tacit understanding of the relationship, so we need to tell each other our true thoughts from the beginning, and then gradually Start doing it now.
2. In the relationship between lovers, we should seriously understand each other's life.
Let’s not talk about achieving spiritual communication with each other or becoming a soul mate, let’s talk about the most direct: how much do you really know each other?
It is found that many people do not know each other seriously in their relationship: I only know that this person likes to play games, but what games he likes to play, how well he plays, and why he likes it so much, all of which are unknown; you only know that this person has been very busy with work recently, But what he's doing, what problems he's encountering now, and why he's so troubled, I don't know.
I was told that his wife was on a business trip. I asked him where he went on a business trip, and he asked me in surprise, "How do I know where this person went on a business trip?" You don't even know each other's lives, how can you achieve a deeper communication?
Therefore, if we want to have a more in-depth communication with this person in a couple relationship, at least let us first understand each other's life, understand what the other party is doing, why are they worried and troubled, and what are they interested in? It may go deeper into the other party's life. spiritual world.
3. Really willing to change themselves for each other in the couple relationship.
Very couples may have gone through the first and second steps, but finally got stuck in the third step: we will feel that the other's world is too complicated for us, and there are some things we don't want to understand, so we gradually lose interested.
A lot of us feel: I want to be myself in a relationship, I don't want to change for the other person.
The idea is really naive: Now that we're in a long-term relationship, we're bound to bond with each other. We cannot be fully ourselves, nor can we expect to have any in-depth communication with each other while fully being ourselves.
Therefore, we must be willing to change for each other on the basis of mutual understanding, and understand many things that we did not understand before, but the other side attaches great importance to. Only in this way, we will have the opportunity to have a more in-depth exchange in the future.
Above, this is why we attach so much importance to spiritual communication in love, and why many of us know the importance of spiritual communication, but there is still no way to turn the other half into our soulmate.
The spiritual exchange of love itself requires us to spend enough time and energy in our own lives, patiently understand each other, and change for each other. This process may be very difficult and long, but the result is worth it.
