How introverts fall in love
2022-05-19
Many people are both looking forward to and afraid of love because of their introverted personality, because introverts are not good at expressing their thoughts and speaking their hearts, so the more introverted people tend to be in love, the more difficult it is to succeed. It doesn't mean that introverts can't have their own relationships. Introverts will also gain love as long as they change themselves.
1. Put down your mental baggage
Introverts think more and do less. When an introvert is thinking about telling others, the extrovert has already told everyone around him. Therefore, once introverted people fall in love, they are usually worried that their lisp will lead to a breakdown in the relationship. Psychologists tell us that as a relationship deepens, there will be less and less conversation between two people. If you've ever been in a relationship, whether you're an extrovert or an introvert, you can definitely recall the moment when you and your lover looked at each other and were speechless. Therefore, introverts should first put down their ideological baggage, and do not think that introversion is a character flaw. In fact, sometimes introverted men are more liked by girls. Some studies have found that boys who display a little shyness are more likely to be liked by girls.
2. Arrange time reasonably
One of the characteristics of introverts is limited social time, if we suddenly fall in love with someone, we will want to spend all of our time with him or her, extroverts will not have a problem because they are more likely to be alone than to be alone. Like to be with other people. But introverts have a problem, they need to be alone, and after spending a lot of time with people they like, they will find that their energy is going to run out. They have to be alone for a while to recover, so they compress the time they spend with friends and relatives, and the relationships are seriously skewed. It can be said that all people have the instinct to ignore their own interests, but introverts are particularly prominent.
Therefore, introverts should arrange a good time when they fall in love, and they must pay attention to controlling the communication of relatives and friends, and do not waste some of their personal relationships. It is an extremely valuable social resource.
3. Let your other half understand your character
For introverts, the first thing to do in a relationship is to communicate with the other half what you like and dislike, and to strike a balance between the two - without consuming too much energy from the introvert, and Does not make extroverts feel lonely and depressed.
4. Avoid long-term misunderstandings and dissatisfaction
When two introverts are in a relationship, there are many incredible experiences between them - doing a lot of personal things together, sharing free and comfortable time together. But that doesn't mean there won't be problems. Due to personality reasons, both parties in love will try to avoid discordant factors. They will keep the dissatisfaction in their hearts in their hearts and not show them in order to maintain a relatively peaceful atmosphere. This depression will last a long time. It may well have been an accumulation of misunderstandings that eventually led to an outburst of dissatisfaction. So again, the importance of mutual communication is shown. The purpose of this kind of communication is to express your feelings to the other party and resolve the misunderstanding that is not too big.
5. What to do at a party
Once in love, introverts have to deal not only with their relatives and friends, but also with their relatives and friends, which seems to be the scariest thing for an introvert because it's hard for an introvert to deal with strangers. Meeting friends for the first time , introverts can help themselves by:
①Be the first person to talk, find someone you think is the most amiable person in the party to chat, and you must be the first person to talk, because it is difficult for introverted people to control the topic of the conversation, if you are the first one The speaker, even if you can't grasp the subject of the future, has to be in control for a while at the beginning.
②You don't have to find all the people to chat, just find a few. The purpose of this is to unburden you from thinking and not having to be very talkative. You just need to find a few people to chat with, and your image in these people's minds will not be too withdrawn and shy.
③ Avoid being an outsider. Introverts usually sit alone in a crowd and deal with everyone with a deliberately stiff smile, so introverts can easily become isolated and others talk about their shared interests, but introverts find themselves out of place. To avoid being an outsider, you need to tell others about your hobbies. Usually in a random gathering, everyone has no idea what the other has in common. Through communication, we can discover what the other person has in common with us and immediately adjust the topic of the conversation so that everyone agrees. In order to be able to say a few words on the topic, introverts must express their preferences so that everyone can notice your presence and adjust the topic of discussion to your liking.
6. How to refuse
Not only introverts, everyone will not refuse easily, and everyone does not like to refuse others, but for introverts, it is too difficult to refuse, here are some suggestions:
①Don’t make a quick decision: In the face of a person’s confession, if you are hesitant or don’t want to accept it at all, then you should tell the other person with great respect that you need to fully consider it and don’t make an immediate decision. Many introverts, because they are afraid of rejection, only realize when they talk about marriage that the person is not the person they really love.
②Don’t say no in person: Compared with face-to-face rejection, rejection in the form of text messages or emails is very easy, and introverts feel less anxious.
③ Don't hesitate, it is sometimes painful to fall in love with an introvert, because it is difficult for them to make a decision, so the love has come to an end, and it is difficult for both parties to distinguish whether their love is love or friendship. Introverts must be decisive, Saying no to someone you don't like will not only hurt a person's well-being.
1. Put down your mental baggage
Introverts think more and do less. When an introvert is thinking about telling others, the extrovert has already told everyone around him. Therefore, once introverted people fall in love, they are usually worried that their lisp will lead to a breakdown in the relationship. Psychologists tell us that as a relationship deepens, there will be less and less conversation between two people. If you've ever been in a relationship, whether you're an extrovert or an introvert, you can definitely recall the moment when you and your lover looked at each other and were speechless. Therefore, introverts should first put down their ideological baggage, and do not think that introversion is a character flaw. In fact, sometimes introverted men are more liked by girls. Some studies have found that boys who display a little shyness are more likely to be liked by girls.
2. Arrange time reasonably
One of the characteristics of introverts is limited social time, if we suddenly fall in love with someone, we will want to spend all of our time with him or her, extroverts will not have a problem because they are more likely to be alone than to be alone. Like to be with other people. But introverts have a problem, they need to be alone, and after spending a lot of time with people they like, they will find that their energy is going to run out. They have to be alone for a while to recover, so they compress the time they spend with friends and relatives, and the relationships are seriously skewed. It can be said that all people have the instinct to ignore their own interests, but introverts are particularly prominent.
Therefore, introverts should arrange a good time when they fall in love, and they must pay attention to controlling the communication of relatives and friends, and do not waste some of their personal relationships. It is an extremely valuable social resource.
3. Let your other half understand your character
For introverts, the first thing to do in a relationship is to communicate with the other half what you like and dislike, and to strike a balance between the two - without consuming too much energy from the introvert, and Does not make extroverts feel lonely and depressed.
4. Avoid long-term misunderstandings and dissatisfaction
When two introverts are in a relationship, there are many incredible experiences between them - doing a lot of personal things together, sharing free and comfortable time together. But that doesn't mean there won't be problems. Due to personality reasons, both parties in love will try to avoid discordant factors. They will keep the dissatisfaction in their hearts in their hearts and not show them in order to maintain a relatively peaceful atmosphere. This depression will last a long time. It may well have been an accumulation of misunderstandings that eventually led to an outburst of dissatisfaction. So again, the importance of mutual communication is shown. The purpose of this kind of communication is to express your feelings to the other party and resolve the misunderstanding that is not too big.
5. What to do at a party
Once in love, introverts have to deal not only with their relatives and friends, but also with their relatives and friends, which seems to be the scariest thing for an introvert because it's hard for an introvert to deal with strangers. Meeting friends for the first time , introverts can help themselves by:
①Be the first person to talk, find someone you think is the most amiable person in the party to chat, and you must be the first person to talk, because it is difficult for introverted people to control the topic of the conversation, if you are the first one The speaker, even if you can't grasp the subject of the future, has to be in control for a while at the beginning.
②You don't have to find all the people to chat, just find a few. The purpose of this is to unburden you from thinking and not having to be very talkative. You just need to find a few people to chat with, and your image in these people's minds will not be too withdrawn and shy.
③ Avoid being an outsider. Introverts usually sit alone in a crowd and deal with everyone with a deliberately stiff smile, so introverts can easily become isolated and others talk about their shared interests, but introverts find themselves out of place. To avoid being an outsider, you need to tell others about your hobbies. Usually in a random gathering, everyone has no idea what the other has in common. Through communication, we can discover what the other person has in common with us and immediately adjust the topic of the conversation so that everyone agrees. In order to be able to say a few words on the topic, introverts must express their preferences so that everyone can notice your presence and adjust the topic of discussion to your liking.
6. How to refuse
Not only introverts, everyone will not refuse easily, and everyone does not like to refuse others, but for introverts, it is too difficult to refuse, here are some suggestions:
①Don’t make a quick decision: In the face of a person’s confession, if you are hesitant or don’t want to accept it at all, then you should tell the other person with great respect that you need to fully consider it and don’t make an immediate decision. Many introverts, because they are afraid of rejection, only realize when they talk about marriage that the person is not the person they really love.
②Don’t say no in person: Compared with face-to-face rejection, rejection in the form of text messages or emails is very easy, and introverts feel less anxious.
③ Don't hesitate, it is sometimes painful to fall in love with an introvert, because it is difficult for them to make a decision, so the love has come to an end, and it is difficult for both parties to distinguish whether their love is love or friendship. Introverts must be decisive, Saying no to someone you don't like will not only hurt a person's well-being.
