How does parental intervention affect children?


There is a type of parents who seem to be particularly interested in their children's lives and want to intervene in everything. It is best for the children to do whatever the parents want. From small to basic necessities of life, to study and work, to getting married and having children, none of them can be left behind. Are these overly intrusive parents really good for their children? What effect will this over-intervention have on the child?

1. Affecting children's self-independence

Children are children after all, and it is inevitable that in life they will spill things, break bowls, soil clothes, and so on. These are the processes that children must go through when they grow up, and they need children to learn through continuous attempts. Even if you fail in the process of trying, don't be discouraged, and parents should not intervene too much. If parents help to do these things in life, then children will be overwhelmed when they face life alone in the future. The response is to seek help from parents, which seriously affects the child's independence. Too much intervention will make them lose confidence in life.

2. Poor language expression ability affecting children

If the child does not speak at the age when he should speak, it will seriously affect his life and even cause an accident. Too much parental intervention will affect the ability of language expression and cause developmental delay. Because children can get what they want without opening their mouths. This may cause the child to speak late or slurred, incoherent speech, and poor language skills. Parents may not pay attention, but doing so will deprive them of the opportunity to express their needs, because children can get things that satisfy themselves without speaking, so there is no need to speak. It's getting better and better, and if you don't practice it will naturally degenerate.

3. Affecting children's self-confidence

Too much parental intervention can also affect children's self-confidence. When they start to go to school and communicate with children of the same age, they will appear insecure, for example, they are afraid to talk to other children, and they are afraid to return their toys even if they are robbed. Over time, it is easy to develop low self-esteem. Being in a state of depression for a long time is also unhealthy for children's mental health development. They will feel powerless and affect the parent-child relationship.

4. Affect children's self-awareness

If children are satisfied where they want, then they will lack a sense of competition and show a state of weak self-awareness. Slowly becoming mediocre, and even when he grows up, he is only willing to eat old. In today's society of innovation and challenges, a person with a weak self-awareness cannot gain a foothold in real life. Not to mention becoming a strong person in society, even an ordinary employee in the workplace can hardly stabilize his professional status. Therefore, the excessive intervention of parents is not a good thing for children from another perspective.

Sometimes too much intervention by parents is actually too much love from parents. Love should be moderate, and too much love will be counterproductive. This is not conducive to the growth and development of children. We should not interfere with them too much. For example, we should give them the courage to do what we can do. This in turn helps the child's growth. Parents should believe that their children have the ability to deal with problems, and they must have the social skills to survive, and then they will have an infinitely better future.