What is a "gripper"? "Barbarian" refers to someone who loves to raise bars. No matter what you say or do, he will always sing the opposite of you, refute you, and deliberately hold opposite opinions when arguing. I believe that there are a few people around everyone who especially like to lift the bar, and even become addicted to it. Why do these people like to push the bar? What kind of mentality is a "barbarian"?

1. Psychological needs for self-protection

"Bar spirits" who love to lift the bar usually have the need for self-protection. Such people are usually inferior and conceited. They always feel that lifting the bar can win others, and it is very comfortable to let others have nothing to say, so that they can feel confident and energetic. , they want to tell everyone that they are not bad by raising the bar. This is actually a kind of self-image maintenance psychology. However, "barbarians" are often not very smooth in work and interpersonal relationships, and people are willing to stay away from them.

2. Demand psychology of resource acquisition type

Sometimes "bars" raise bars for nothing but to show: I'm better than you, and I can overwhelm you. So as to obtain better benefits and more resources for themselves. That is to say, in the process of dialogue, the "bar" will unconsciously regard you as an opponent. Only when you quit can they achieve what they want, the psychology of achieving their purpose.

3. The psychology of venting needs

Verbal violence is also a form of violence. It is a psychological way of venting emotions. Many people do not realize the impact of verbal violence. Violence will bring uncomfortable feelings to others, and blind attacks will arouse their disgust. The greatest psychological pleasure that violence brings to the "bar jing" himself comes from the venting of emotions.

4. The psychology to meet the needs of vanity and desire for control

Raising the bar is actually the thrill of winning by stimulating others. It's a short-lived, but long-term bad thing. Raise the bar, you can quickly satisfy your little vanity, show your little cleverness, vent your repressed emotions, and show your different psychology. People who like to lift the bar usually have a strong desire to control others and be good teachers.

5. Reverse psychology

"Barbarians" usually have a rebellious mentality and like to gain a sense of accomplishment by refuting others. They are often self-righteous in their daily life, do not care about the feelings of others, and some even deliberately raise the bar. Often seen as disrespectful to others.

6. The psychology of inferiority

People who love to lift bars often lack presence, have high self-esteem, and are too sensitive. I often use refutation of others to enhance my sense of status, and I feel that I have the value and meaning of existence, which is to raise my own position, and I feel extremely inferior. Too strong self-esteem, thinking that only by refuting others can comments satisfy self-esteem and being respected by others, and thinking that you will be respected and respected if you speak well, this is the side of insufficient self-confidence. Only by raising the bar can you gain self-confidence.

7. The psychology of defense mechanisms

The famous psychologist Freud once said that people have a psychological defense mechanism, and the psychological defense mechanism is actually psychological defense. When people encounter setbacks and conflict situations, or have inappropriate impulses, desires, and thoughts, they will adopt some defense mechanisms to protect themselves and reduce their anxiety, anxiety and other negative emotions. This can be a good explanation for why the "gang jing" loves to raise the bar.

In short, don't be nervous when you meet a "barbarian", as long as you have a strong psychological quality and are not influenced by the other party, then he will naturally feel bored, and he will lose.