We always say that "failure is the mother of success", but this sentence is actually used by predecessors to comfort themselves in order to cover up their own shortcomings. On the contrary, what can bring success should be success, and "success is the mother of success" is correct. Because the "winner effect" will make it easier for the winner to win, as the so-called strong is stronger. The "winner effect" approach is especially important in a child's education. The "winner effect" will make children fall into a "success cycle", build self-confidence and improve a sense of accomplishment. The more accomplished people are, the more confident they are, the more confident they are, the more likely they are to succeed, and success is more helpful to children. So, how can we use the "winner effect" to guide children to success? Here are a few ways that parents can apply what they have learned.

1. Method 1: Parents should encourage and support their children

Research by a medical team has shown that there is a neural circuit in people's brains that mediates the "winner effect". This neural circuit shows that past victories make subsequent victories easier. For example, student A achieved excellent results in exams. After receiving praise and encouragement from teachers and parents, he studied harder and his grades were getting better and better. After being criticized by the parents, the students B with average grades gradually lost their confidence and motivation to study, and finally their grades plummeted. Therefore, when the child encounters setbacks and failures, parents should not blindly blame, beat and scold the child. This method is not only ineffective, but also counterproductive to the child. Because parents' words and deeds may become the source of imitation of children. Different practices can lead children down two completely different paths. Therefore, when children fail, parents should help them analyze the reasons for failure, summarize methods, encourage and support children, and regain confidence in order to better succeed.

2. Method 2: Strengthen the child's strengths and weaken the weaknesses

Scientists have found in experiments that mice that win in one aspect also have a better chance of winning in other aspects of the competition. This means that if a child has expertise in a certain field, the methods that are good in the field can be migrated to other fields. For example, in strengthening running skills, the experience of winning in the competition can promote the progress of learning. Parents can use this method to observe their strengths, strengthen their strengths, and downplay their weaknesses. Thereby enhancing children's self-confidence and sense of achievement, so that the "winner effect" plays an important role in children's education. In this way, the child will continue to feel joy and a sense of accomplishment, gain joy from it, and move towards success.

3. Method 3: Appropriately lower expectations and help children face failure

Some kids fail all the time and never experience success. At this time, parents should appropriately lower their expectations and help their children experience the joy of a success. For backward children, parents need to use some methods to help them get out of the predicament. While encouraging them, they also give some positive psychological hints: "I believe that children can make continuous progress through hard work". Eliminate children's negative prejudice against themselves. Even if they fail, they will not be discouraged. Parents and children will face each other and challenge again. Slowly, they will progress and experience a sense of victory. As long as children experience a few more successes, they will fall into a "success cycle" and keep progressing towards success.