I believe that many parents have found that their children often have red faces, pinched legs, and pout. This kind of "constipation" expression is actually the child's "anal desire period". The famous psychologist Freud believed that children will enter the "anus period" at about 2-4 years old, which is not only a physiological phenomenon, but also a reflection of a psychological phenomenon. Some children will get the pleasure brought by the contraction and relaxation of the sphincter muscle from holding back urine and stool. So how to help children get through the anal period? Wondering what a good way for parents to do? Then look down!

1. Method 1: Accept and respect the performance of the child's anal desire

The child's urination behavior is a typical manifestation of entering the anal desire period. Parents should respect the child's development law and understand their behavior by learning parenting knowledge. If parents have inconsistent attitudes towards the performance of their children's anal desire period and lose their temper over the act of soiling their pants, they will make the child nervous, bring anxiety and prolong this period. Accepting the child's urination and defecation behavior during the anal period is the first way to help the child pass through the anal period smoothly. Do not use the child's diapers as a family discussion point, let alone discuss it in front of the child.

2. Method 2: Don’t arbitrarily interrupt the child’s ongoing urination or defecation behavior

If your child is holding back urine and stool, parents must not interrupt them. They may be playing with toys while holding back stool. Even if adults remind them many times, the child is reluctant to go to the bathroom. Don't push or blame them. Once interrupted, it will disrupt the child's process of finding the critical point; don't carry them directly into the bathroom, or force them to sit on the toilet. This method will disrupt the child's progress. experience. Experiencing sexual sensations by holding back urine or stool is actually a child's sexual development process. Even some children will experience sexual pleasure in this way when they grow up. As long as it does not affect their health or others, do not arbitrarily stop or interrupt them.

3. Method 3: Do not treat the child's defecation behavior as constipation

It was said before that the child's expression when he was holding a bowel movement was very "constipation", so some parents really mistakenly treated this behavior as constipation. These parents believe that their children should have a bowel movement on time every day. If they do not have a bowel movement for two days, they will give their children traditional Chinese medicine, eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, and even force the children to use Kaisailu plug anus. This method will not only destroy the child's own defecation system, causing fear and pain to inhibit defecation, but also hinder the development of the child's anal period, eventually leading to real constipation and endangering the child's health. In fact, defecation is a natural thing, and when the time comes, the baby will naturally defecate.

4. Method 4: Give children enough attention and love

Parents should not ridicule, scold, threaten, or beat children when they untie their urine and urination in their pants. This will make children feel self-deprecating and affect the building of self-esteem in their personality. Try this method: We should tell them calmly and gently: "It's okay, baby, mom will change your pants." Parents don't say nonsense, such as "Don't do this again next time! Go to the bathroom to pee." Even if he knew, he couldn't do it right now. If a child continues to pee his pants when it is time to urinate on his own, in addition to physical illness, it is likely to be a lack of parental care.

5. Method 5: Parents should actively communicate with teachers

Parents should communicate with kindergarten teachers in a timely manner when their children show signs of anal desire. Parents should not feel ashamed, put pressure on their children, calmly accept their anal desire period, and add reasonable methods with the cooperation of the teacher to help them pass this stage smoothly.