Everyone can recall: before the age of 1, did you like to eat your hands and feet? No matter whose hands and feet are, as long as someone stretches it out, the child will not refuse, or the child will hug and chew on the thing handed over. So why do 0-1 year olds behave like this? What psychological needs are they meeting? In fact, this is the first stage of Freud's sexual development: the oral stage. Children in this period usually get pleasure from sucking things, so the occurrence parts are mostly concentrated on the lips. But there are also a considerable number of parents who are unwilling to let their children suck their fingers. If these behaviors of the children are not satisfied, what kind of influence and phenomenon will it have on the development of the children's personality when they grow up? Let's take a look below!

1. Phenomenon 1: After growing up, language expression is not smooth in interpersonal communication

If the child's lips are not satisfied in the 0-1 year old lip stage, for example, the parent does not let the child suck his own hand and slaps it down. Then, when these children grow up, they usually like to bite their hands or lips when they encounter difficulties and setbacks. This phenomenon tends to make the language expression less fluent in interpersonal communication, thus showing some degenerative behaviors. Therefore, the act of biting the hand or the lip is used to compensate for the traumatic phenomenon of unsatisfactory childhood as a child. Therefore, when mothers are raising their children, especially the lip stage at the age of 0-1, they must fully satisfy their children. You can take a pacifier and put it in the child's mouth, and when the child sucks on the pacifier, the lip stage will be satisfied.

2. Phenomenon 2: You can't trust anyone when you grow up

In the oral stage, babies have just come into the world, and their lips and skin are the most important things to them. It is their first intimate connection to perceive the world, gain a sense of security and trust. But if the child is not satisfied, when he grows up, he will feel that he grows up in an unsafe place, he is not easy to be trusted, and he is unwilling to trust others. There is even an unusual, extreme fear of being abandoned. So much so that I desperately want to find a person like my mother to take care of myself, and I become clingy and seek dependence.

3. Now Xiang 3: When I grow up, I become addicted to smoking, drinking and overeating

If the child's needs in the oral stage are not met enough, then by the age of two or three, they may still be competing with their peers for food. There may be a lot of lip movement in adulthood. For example, overeating, smoking and drinking, etc., these people are usually because the lip stage is not good, and they hope to get pleasure through the lips. Therefore, parents must help their children pass the lip stage well and pay attention to it.

4. Phenomenon 4: When you grow up, you will have a sensitive and suspicious personality

If a person is not satisfied in the oral stage, it is mildly the phenomenon of overeating, smoking and drinking. Seriously, it will also affect people's character, and it is easy to form a paranoid, sensitive and suspicious character. Often such people will engage in activities equivalent to biting, such as sarcasm, sarcasm, and hatred of others. Negative emotions such as pessimism, withdrawal, and suspicion of others when encountering problems. Sucking is a child's instinct, and parents cannot forcibly stop the child from such behavior in the oral stage, so they should give the child a full sense of satisfaction, so as not to leave a bad psychological barrier.