Many people want to know how to communicate anger and anger, because we have all encountered situations where we are angry with our family members, quarrel with lovers, and have cold wars with friends. There are really too many things in life that can easily arouse our anger. Emotions rushed to the top of the head, the first reaction is to want to lose his temper. However, unreasonable expression can easily lead to misunderstanding between the two parties. Correct and reasonable expression of anger is more conducive to the deepening of the relationship, allowing both parties to establish a real and effective interpersonal relationship based on sincerity and respect. So, how should we express our anger properly and reasonably?

1. Be sure to pay attention to the tone of your speech when you are angry

When we communicate, we not only listen to what the other party says, but also judge his attitude from the other party's tone. It may have been the other party's mistake that angered you, but it is very likely that because of your unreasonable expression, the overreaction will make you vulnerable. Speak well so that no one will listen. Use appropriate language expressions. Avoid extreme language expressions. Raising your tone and scolding loudly because you are in a position that is more favorable to public opinion is not decent, and will often further provoke the other party even more, and lead communication to quarrel.

2. When you are angry, first say something that can shorten the distance between each other

Unreasonable expressions will intensify conflicts, and contradictions do not mean that your relationship will be completely broken. Whether it is friends or family, lovers can’t break up without a word. It is easier for the opponent to let go of their defenses, and it is also easier to prompt the opponent to think in a different position.

3. Do not make negative comments when angry

In many quarrels, both parties can communicate calmly at the beginning, but once one party makes a negative evaluation of the other, it will inevitably fall into a quarrel. Because at this moment, what you are angry with is the way and attitude of this person in this matter, not that he disgusts you as a whole. If you deny the other party when you express your anger, and you will not express your anger reasonably, you will ignore the problem itself and fall into endless personal attacks. Because often what really hurts feelings is not anger, but complete denial and attack. If you can talk about your feelings, the transmission of emotions will make the other party more likely to empathize with them. Compared with making negative comments directly, expressing your feelings reasonably is an effective way to let the other party truly realize that they are wrong.

4. Don't turn over old accounts when you are angry

If you bring up those old and rotten things when you are angry, the most likely outcome is that you have added new problems. Going through old accounts is the most unreasonable way to express it, because it will relive all the anger in the past.

5. Learn to raise demands and suggestions when angry

A truly wise person can realize where his anger comes from, know how to express his anger reasonably, and dare to express it, because it means that you can face your own emotions and others candidly. When you are angry, expressing your feelings and asking the other party to apologize is not the point. The real point is to prevent problems before they happen. How to avoid recurrence is more of a concern. So in the end, you must learn to put forward your needs reasonably. For example, if you encounter a similar thing next time, what do you want the other party to do, and how to say it so as not to cause conflicts. This also reduces anger on both sides.