In everyday conversation, the conversation can't always be as smooth as a car on the plains, it will start to circle or turn, and occasionally it will stall, away from your original topic, or simply say "I don't want to continue talking." Pay attention to whether the talker wants to continue the conversation and decide whether to change the subject.

Determine whether to change the topic 1. The other party tries to change the topic

When someone changes the subject, first see if the other person is tired of the conversation, loses interest as the conversation progresses, wants to drop the conversation, or if they wanted to avoid the topic in the first place. For example, if a wife asks her husband if he would like to buy a new house, if he replies "I would love to buy a new house, but do you think I can afford it?" As the conversation progresses, he brings up his work, and trying to change the subject, that's when the talker doesn't want to continue the subject. However, if the topic transferred by the other party is still related to the original topic, it shows that the other party is still willing to discuss this issue.

Determine whether to change the topic 2. Interjection

Interjection is basically the end of a conversation. Someone who interrupts someone at an inappropriate time not only disrupts the conversation, but also exposes a reckless personality.

However, if someone interjects at an inappropriate time, they may feel impatient with the conversation going on, bored, disinterested in the topic, or feel that the conversation is moving too slowly. This kind of behavior is very rude and may be influenced by family background and environment. For example, family members speak rudely and do not pay attention to conversation etiquette, and this habit will also develop. If the other person wants to get into another topic, they also change the subject by interjecting.

It's also possible that the interjector is trying to get someone's attention. Often insecure or extremely self-aware, this type of person has no ability to think for others, and they don't hesitate to bring up a completely unrelated topic. If the other person interrupts your current conversation and wants to start another topic, they may be avoiding the current topic.

Judging whether to change the topic 3. The conversation suddenly stopped and became quiet in an instant

If you're having a light-hearted conversation with someone and suddenly you say something off topic and the other person doesn't respond, the conversation is interrupted. This is because the other person didn't expect you to say something like this, and their thoughts couldn't keep up with your rhythm for a while.

A brief pause may indicate that the other person is not very fond of the topic of conversation, and may be angry or disappointed. At this time, the other party needs a short pause to regain control of his emotions.

When the other person is angry, you may see a flash of anger on their face, accompanied by a tensed jaw, a dismissive look, or a shaking head. When the other person is disappointed, there may be a sigh, turn of the head, a shrug, or other body movements. A momentary pause can also be when the other person is thinking about something completely unrelated, when an absent-minded, distant stare, or a flabby expression appears on their face.

So instead of filling in the blanks with another topic when the interlocutor suddenly pauses, look closely at the interlocutor's face, eyes, and lips for clues as to what you said before the other person paused.

In short, the seemingly ordinary behavior of judging whether to change the subject carries a lot of information, and we can read each other in daily life through these details.