3 reasons why women care about the past

2022-06-09

A lot of men say that women are too small, they are too pretentious, and women can never forget the past that has long since become history. Now that things have passed, they should be put down, and old accounts should not be turned over. This is easy to say, but it is very difficult to do, because most of those past events that cannot be relieved are mostly dead knots that are extremely difficult to unravel. So, is it unreasonable for women to turn over old accounts? Why do women like to look through old accounts? From a psychological point of view, there are several reasons for caring about the past:

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Reason 1: The emotional focus of men and women is different

We all know that men and women think differently and have different emotional priorities. Usually men's thinking is minimalist. When they look at a problem, they often feel that the result has come out, and the matter is equal to the end, so for them it is a page-turning. But if the same thing is not so simple for women, it does not mean that there are no other stories behind it. For women, the most important thing is what are the reasons for these stories. This is a woman most want to know. For example, if my boyfriend still has photos of his ex-girlfriend on his phone, or he has a sudden chat with his ex-girlfriend, the man may think that she and I have done nothing but simply talk or work. But the woman will think that since you said that there is no relationship between the two of you, why do you hide it from me. So even though the man explained it repeatedly, he seemed to believe it on the surface, but he buried this kind of stimulation to the bottom of his heart. This is the reason why a woman's mood will be irritated once she encounters an unpleasant emotion, and the old account will be turned over again.

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Reason 2: Men and women have different ways of remembering

Another reason why women love to turn over old accounts is that there are differences in memory between men and women. This is due to differences in the way they remember, and it all stems from genetic differences. The reason is that men are more likely to remember facts, such as the direction to go when traveling or a string of numbers, and women are more likely to remember things that are closely related to emotions, such as birthdays, anniversaries, and details of what happened around them. Different genders pay attention to different directions, which leads to the emergence of contradictions between men and women in life, and the reason why women love to turn over old accounts. For example, a woman will prepare a sumptuous dinner in advance on her wedding anniversary, and wait for the man to come back from get off work to give him a surprise, but when the dishes are cold, he waits for the man to call him "working overtime". This is also easy to inspire women to turn over the old accounts. Even after the man apologized and made up for it, the woman chose to forgive, but this matter remained in the woman's heart forever. But in fact, the reason women turn out old accounts is to make men pay attention to themselves and not always ignore their feelings. This is normal.

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Reason 3: Women are full of nostalgia for the past

Another reason why women love to turn over old accounts is that many women feel that there is a great gap in their hearts after entering marriage. Women feel that marriage has not made them happier, but men's attitudes are much more negative than before marriage, thinking that men will not cherish them when they get them. Just talking about love, love, flowers, snow and moon are all behaviors before marriage. After marriage, you have to face not only the emotions of the two, but also the trivialities of chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce, tea and vinegar. Marriage is different from falling in love. After marriage, two people live at home. But women are inherently romantic and have certain requirements for feelings. So when I see a man's attitude towards me is not as cherished as before marriage, I often use this to turn to old accounts, saying how men treated me in the past, and how they are now. But it's not that men don't cherish and love women anymore after they marry them, but the reason why most men are more straight. They thought how could I possibly marry you if I didn't love you. But women need men to love themselves to be able to express it well, but men feel that it is a fact and there is no need to advertise it, so this can easily become a flashpoint for women to turn over old accounts.