How to make relationships more harmonious
2022-05-19
Humans are social animals, each with their own unique thoughts, backgrounds, attitudes, personalities, behavioral patterns and values. However, interpersonal relationships have a great impact on everyone's mood, life, and work, and even affect organizational climate, organizational communication, and organizational effectiveness. The relationship between individuals and organizations is huge.
Since we are all part of society, we are also indispensable to a certain group - you and your family, your friends, your classmates, your teachers, your colleagues, etc. In real life, why do some people have a wide range of interpersonal relationships, while others are always isolated and helpless, and their relationships with friends and colleagues are not very harmonious? Here is a list of the seven elements of building relationships, and I hope it helps.
1. Real
Authenticity sets you apart. You are who you are, don't pretend to be anything else.
Some psychology books like to refer to the philosophy of pretending to be who you want to be. The essence of it is that as long as you pretend to be an ideal person first, you can end up being that person. But, at the end of the day, you're still pretending.
So throw away this false mental dogma and try to do everything your own way. From your true thoughts and beliefs, from your true self, seek to improve and improve, try new things, create value.
A prerequisite for building relationships is trust. The most basic of trust is to believe that someone is who he is, that he is a real person.
2. Be interested in others (rather than just make others interested in you)
Interesting people in relationships do get attention, but I believe people who are interested in others are appreciated because we always like people who are interested in ourselves.
Imagine when you go shopping and a salesperson walks up to you and introduces you to the product. If he's introducing the value of a product, and he's equally concerned with how best to help you and meet your needs, you'll love him, not because he's a funny guy. Conversely, if one of the salespeople only complimented its product value, the results would be quite different. In fact, all successful salespeople in real life are the former.
When you express interest in someone in a relationship and want to know more about him, not out of curiosity, but in order to provide better help or service, that person will be grateful and honored. Learning to appreciate the people we serve increases the value of the services we provide.
3. Listen properly for more information
When you are interested in a person, they provide important information that you can use to create value. For example, if you know your boss hates long memos, you know you can impress him and earn his trust with a short report. Or, during lunch with a client, she revealed that she was looking for a new product because it was related to her Your 14-year-old is interested in questions about, and you know that because you care and ask her family—while listening to what's being answered.
Getting to know others by heart in your relationships, looking for information that can help you provide better service, so you'll win over them, and knowing and acknowledging their needs will add value to the service you offer them.
4. Compassionate
If you are interested in people in relationships, listen carefully and try to really understand them, you can better understand their feelings, which may not always be the same - if so, then you are the best Compassionate people - but when you can empathize with them and understand their feelings, you can really put yourself in their shoes. Being understood by others in our relationships is one of the strongest human needs, yet many times the people in our lives either don’t care at all or don’t want to make the effort to understand how we really feel.
A wise man once said 2000 years ago: "Be kind, everyone you meet is going through a hard struggle." The person who said this is Philo (a representative figure of Jewish philosophy in ancient Greece) Since then Since then, the world has not changed much, and his advice is still a truly compassionate soul.
5. Honest
The real meaning of the art of communication in relationships is not to say what the other person wants to hear, but to tell the other person what they need to know in a way that the other person can hear. I sum it all down to one simple creed: keep your word and do what you're supposed to do. In other words, don’t make promises in relationships that you can’t; don’t let others have unrealistic, unrealistic expectations of you; don’t make big promises and be a man, woman, or organization that keeps their promises , that's honesty.
6. Be helpful
Small things can make a big difference in relationships, and many small things can make a big difference. Many years ago, I learned from friends how to help strangers. If I see a group of people taking pictures, and it's one of them, I volunteer to help so that everyone gets involved.
Even the act of opening the door for someone else contained the spirit of Fred. So don't forget to be nice - people won't forget you.
7. On time
For most people, their time is far less than their disposable income. Caring for others in relationships and giving them time is the most valuable gift. Saving others' time by acting on time, efficiently and quickly will create value and turn mediocrity into excellence. Relationships with others are all about spending time with them, so be sure to do what you can to care for and serve them and create value.
Since we are all part of society, we are also indispensable to a certain group - you and your family, your friends, your classmates, your teachers, your colleagues, etc. In real life, why do some people have a wide range of interpersonal relationships, while others are always isolated and helpless, and their relationships with friends and colleagues are not very harmonious? Here is a list of the seven elements of building relationships, and I hope it helps.
1. Real
Authenticity sets you apart. You are who you are, don't pretend to be anything else.
Some psychology books like to refer to the philosophy of pretending to be who you want to be. The essence of it is that as long as you pretend to be an ideal person first, you can end up being that person. But, at the end of the day, you're still pretending.
So throw away this false mental dogma and try to do everything your own way. From your true thoughts and beliefs, from your true self, seek to improve and improve, try new things, create value.
A prerequisite for building relationships is trust. The most basic of trust is to believe that someone is who he is, that he is a real person.
2. Be interested in others (rather than just make others interested in you)
Interesting people in relationships do get attention, but I believe people who are interested in others are appreciated because we always like people who are interested in ourselves.
Imagine when you go shopping and a salesperson walks up to you and introduces you to the product. If he's introducing the value of a product, and he's equally concerned with how best to help you and meet your needs, you'll love him, not because he's a funny guy. Conversely, if one of the salespeople only complimented its product value, the results would be quite different. In fact, all successful salespeople in real life are the former.
When you express interest in someone in a relationship and want to know more about him, not out of curiosity, but in order to provide better help or service, that person will be grateful and honored. Learning to appreciate the people we serve increases the value of the services we provide.
3. Listen properly for more information
When you are interested in a person, they provide important information that you can use to create value. For example, if you know your boss hates long memos, you know you can impress him and earn his trust with a short report. Or, during lunch with a client, she revealed that she was looking for a new product because it was related to her Your 14-year-old is interested in questions about, and you know that because you care and ask her family—while listening to what's being answered.
Getting to know others by heart in your relationships, looking for information that can help you provide better service, so you'll win over them, and knowing and acknowledging their needs will add value to the service you offer them.
4. Compassionate
If you are interested in people in relationships, listen carefully and try to really understand them, you can better understand their feelings, which may not always be the same - if so, then you are the best Compassionate people - but when you can empathize with them and understand their feelings, you can really put yourself in their shoes. Being understood by others in our relationships is one of the strongest human needs, yet many times the people in our lives either don’t care at all or don’t want to make the effort to understand how we really feel.
A wise man once said 2000 years ago: "Be kind, everyone you meet is going through a hard struggle." The person who said this is Philo (a representative figure of Jewish philosophy in ancient Greece) Since then Since then, the world has not changed much, and his advice is still a truly compassionate soul.
5. Honest
The real meaning of the art of communication in relationships is not to say what the other person wants to hear, but to tell the other person what they need to know in a way that the other person can hear. I sum it all down to one simple creed: keep your word and do what you're supposed to do. In other words, don’t make promises in relationships that you can’t; don’t let others have unrealistic, unrealistic expectations of you; don’t make big promises and be a man, woman, or organization that keeps their promises , that's honesty.
6. Be helpful
Small things can make a big difference in relationships, and many small things can make a big difference. Many years ago, I learned from friends how to help strangers. If I see a group of people taking pictures, and it's one of them, I volunteer to help so that everyone gets involved.
Even the act of opening the door for someone else contained the spirit of Fred. So don't forget to be nice - people won't forget you.
7. On time
For most people, their time is far less than their disposable income. Caring for others in relationships and giving them time is the most valuable gift. Saving others' time by acting on time, efficiently and quickly will create value and turn mediocrity into excellence. Relationships with others are all about spending time with them, so be sure to do what you can to care for and serve them and create value.
