The more people you know, the better. The more people you have, the better you can get things done. We'd better meet some new friends and build a good relationship with them.
What's the use of having a wide network of people? In times of crisis, the people who can really help you are only a few people who really care about you, so we should abandon those ineffective social relationships and care more about the people around us.
Many people may have been confused by the above two viewpoints. Sometimes we put a lot of effort into those so-called networks. For example, go to various chat groups on various festival nights, or privately message many friends and send them holiday wishes. Although this kind of social networking is simple, it still requires a lot of time and effort. Sometimes we may also ignore the closest people in the process.

So is this socially invalid?
"Ineffective socialization" can be an imbalance, and in our social activities, it is often difficult to clearly distinguish what is effective and what is not. For example, we often see three ways of socializing on social networks:
1. "Like-style social networking" means that there is no actual content, but only through mechanical likes and other actions or "easy-to-produce" methods to communicate, such as general likes and blessings.
2. "Broadcast social networking" refers to browsing the latest news of friends, pop-up new reminders, or inadvertently received various information in the information stream, such as seeing photos of others playing abroad, new lunches, about new students Children's fun and so on.
3. "Creative social" means that the content of the communication is personalized, usually targeted, one-on-one, and more heartfelt communication.
And the relationships we have with these objects of communication can be divided into two categories: strong ties (with close friends, often offline) and weak ties (with people we don’t know or know very well).
Regardless of the form of our interactions and the types of people we communicate with, we are likely to realize that those interactions are meaningful to us. “Creative conversations” with people close to us can certainly enhance our sense of intimacy; and at 12 o’clock in the middle of the night, a like from a circle of friends with a weak relationship can bring us some emotional comfort.
The reason why we feel "ineffective" in certain social relationships may be because we invest a lot of energy in weak ties, only to find that those investments don't give us the same output. When we discover that no matter how much effort we put in, those weak ties cannot turn into strong ones, nor can those potential gains turn into actual gains. Then we would consider the relationship to be invalid or not worthwhile.

Social benefits vary from person to person
The effectiveness and ineffectiveness of social interactions are largely influenced by our individual needs. For some people who like to be alone, they do not need external support to supplement their mental strength, nor do they want to obtain social resources from the outside world. Therefore, what is necessary for us to socialize may not work for them. Even at times, these social activities are a burden to them.
Likewise, social activities, which seek to connect through social interaction, are not as effective for different people. For some people, they build a relationship just to get timely feedback if they need help in the future.
For others, they socialize not only for future benefit, but also for emotional satisfaction in the process. They love meeting new people, and in the process, they also feel empowered and present.
The reason why we feel that certain social interactions are effective or necessary may be due to the over-reinforcement of certain values ​​by social culture. Network is a resource, and network determines development. These concepts may not be exactly right for everyone. Therefore, social effectiveness is difficult to define externally. Sometimes a person has very few social activities, and it cannot be said that his social skills are not strong, and the future development space is not high. Likewise, if a person has extensive and high-quality connections, but cannot meet his emotional needs in the process of maintaining relationships, these social interactions may also be ineffective for him.
So, when we talk about social effectiveness, we usually talk about effectiveness to some extent. Within this range, individual needs and their own satisfaction with social relationships play an important role.

So, how to improve the effectiveness of social networking?
1. Know your social needs
Before we start socializing, we need to think about what we want from the relationship. Of course, that doesn't mean you have to socialize purposefully, not only with sincerity, but with the freedom to express your needs. Only by knowing your own social needs can you better express yourself to others.
By understanding each other's needs and choosing a more appropriate way of socializing, you can better establish a stable and long-term social relationship. As a result, you can build trusting relationships with others faster and mobilize your mental resources effectively.
2. Distribute your energy and attention properly
As mentioned above, there are various forms of social relationships in our lives. Of course, these social interactions may all be meaningful to us. We may not need to devote all our energy to strong relationships, and those weak relationships also require our hearts to maintain to some extent.
Perhaps we should allocate our energy and attention reasonably based on understanding our needs. We can also redefine a social relationship based on our current state.
We often wish to devote all our energy to effective socializing and maximizing the benefits of social connections. But whether you're looking for spiritual support or material enrichment from the relationship, the first step may be to gain a deep understanding of what your own heart truly desires.